i lost my virginity

[bobbybrown]

Recently I had sex for the first time and I think my girlfriend is pregnant. Should I tell her parents or not.

[mishy120]

Hi bobbybrown,
I think you should tell her parents or tell her to tell her parent cause if she is pregnant she might need to get help.
Good luck!

[Daniel]

While Mishy is right that this is a serious situation, I would not advise going to her parents as a first step.

The first thing to do is make certain that this isn't a false alarm. The next thing to do is to talk to your girlfriend about it. And if that doesn't work, the next thing to do is to talk to your girlfriend about it. Make sure she knows what options are available to her. Be there to guide her and support her, and let her know that you are there for her. Keep a cool head, because this an issue like this is bound to be hard on both of you. While the two of you may wish to speak to her parents together, you should only go past her to speak to her parents on your own if you believe she is making a choice that will put herself in danger.

Teen pregnancy is a very difficult issue to handle, and it's not something you should try to deal with alone. If the two of you aren't sure how to talk to your parents about it, a school guidance counsellor may be able to help.

And TASSI is always here if you have questions or just want to vent.

[karljoesen]

I think this situation is so serious. Why don't you use condom? You have to think about what will happen when have sex with your girlfriend.
If I were you, I would talk with her parent and then accept your responsibilities.

[AdamC]

Hi BobbyBrown,

I happen to really agree with Daniel in this situation. First you must make sure whether or not she is pregnant? Maybe she isn't and you guys don't need to talk to her parents! I also think it is important to know that you should never have to go to your girlfriend's parents before talking to her unless you know for sure that she is in danger of harming herself, because she might get mad that you went behind her back instead of talking to her.

Be there to support your girlfriend and find out together! You will both feel good having one another by your side, especially if she is pregnant and needs help.

Did your girlfriend take a pregnancy test yet?

[sunnytoh]

Hi bobbybrown,

Even i will also suggest you to first talk to your girlfriend and get it confirmed whether she is pregnant.

[elanerajk70]

@BobbyBrown

Don't hesitate to talk to your parents. But confirm it first before telling your parents. Be sure.

[LindsayF]

Hi bobbybrown!
This is definitely a difficult situation for both you and your girlfriend.
I would have to agree with Daniel. The last step I would take is going to your girlfriends parents (unless she is making choices that would put her in serious danger). Often times women think they are pregnant and it turns out to be a false alarm so i would advise her to take a pregnancy test to make sure. Be as supportive as you can by making decisions together and being there for her when she takes the test etc.
Let us know
Goodluck!
Lindsay

[Sam13]

HI Bobbybrown,
The situation you and your girlfriend having now is a very serious one.
Being one who encounter same situation with you, try to face the responsibility and disregards in your mind all the negatives thoughts of what will be happened next,,,,
If you are now at the right age, why dont you get marriage?Parents will get angry or everything just in a short time., after which they will be happy having their grand child.....
Cheers and be happy, baby is Gods gift,and lucky are you having that gift.....
Thanks,,,,
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[LindaM]

Hi Sam13,
You mentioned that you had a similar situation. Would you like to share it with us as I am sure there are many different opinions and experiences that we can all learn from.
Looking forward to hearing from you and would love to know peoples ages when they post as our decisions and thoughts may certainly be affected by what stage of life we are at. Thanks for writing.